Crying Doesn’t Mean I’m Weak!

You those moments when you just collapse in a heap & cry, cry and cry – it feels horrible doesn’t it and if you are like me, you probably feel weak! But only recently did I learn that crying is good for me.

 Let me explain why;

By releasing my feelings of sadness and even frustration I am releasing my pain, my stress and all my most inward thoughts. It’s actually bringing me forward as before when I was holding all the energy within me – I was being held back – it was filling me with pain causing my illnesses to flare and challenge me. I’m no longer embarrassed to cry and if people tell me to stop being weak , I know that my moment or moments in tears are my releases and they are strengthening me even more for the future.

Let me tell you why;

  • Crying makes me stop and understand what’s truly hurting me.  By realising the sadness, fear, anxiety, frustration, etc I am letting go of all that I don’t require being bottled up inside me. Refusing or holding  my tears in means hiding my feelings in a way and thus I am failing to release my negative emotions that are hurting my mental and physical wellness. Crying does not mean that i can’t handle my life, as I once thought. It shows  that I have a deeper connection to  handling my life and all of its challenges. Because I am more likely to cry and free my emotions, I can better regain hold on my experiences and my true responses to each of lifes situations, whether they’re positive or painful and by being able to hold my ground with these life experiences in this way through crying, i know that I am letting my body get rid of negative energy and making room for rejuvenating freshness of breath and life.
  •  I  don’t care how others see me, when i cry because it’s basically me being open and vulnerable. It’s brave to show our most emotional side to other people, without stopping to care about what they might think. Crying without worrying what others think of me means that i’m putting a stop to the negative messages that float around within my head and allows me to see that showing emotions means that I am human.
  • I know now that, the people most closest to me, benefit from seeing me in such a vulnerable state. It also shows me, which people don’t really have a place in my life and as a result, I find myself  surrounded only by the people who help me grow in strength and wisdom along life’s journey .
  • I’m very aware that when I cry I allow myself to release feelings that have made me angry, sad and basically less able of controlling my emotions. I know if I keep my feelings in for too long, I will end up having a major emotional explosion at some point and that’s no good for me or the person or people that may end up being lashed out on. 
  • I believe feeling comfortable with myself being able to cry, I can demonstrate that it’s completely okay to display our own vulnerability for others to see and they learn from that. You see, I used to believe because I cry, it was a sign of weakness but I now know that by crying I am actually being strong and honest because I am showing my feelings and emotions whether they be happy, sad, joyful or angry.

So next time you are feeling emotional, know that it is a healthy emotional expression that can and will show your friends and perhaps their friends, that when you are willing to cry then you are indirectly improving life as a result!         

If you resonate or agree with my thoughts on crying out loud to release thoughts and feelings, please let me know through feedback here or of course across on one of my social media channels. 

Till next time

Much love


2 thoughts on “Crying Doesn’t Mean I’m Weak!

  1. This blog post really resonated with me, though I don’t know if I’ll be able to put it into practice. My father is slowly dying of kidney failure and I’m two weeks from my c-section with my firstborn, even though I’m wheelchair bound with a severe nervous system disorder. So I’ve plenty to cry about if I chose to, but I really seriously suck at being sad. I had depression as a child and teenager, but I came to see it as a drain on myself and a waste of time and energy, so I pulled myself out by the bootstraps (a horrible and traumatic thing to do, if anyone says someone with depression should get over it they’re asking you to do a ‘127 hours’ emotional surgery on your own brain) and now sadness and crying is just unnatural to me. I understand and support it in others, I just can’t crack it myself- the movie ‘inside out’ made just zero sense to me… But I don’t want my baby to grow up with a mom who can’t feel sadness, I know that’s not good, so I’m gonna try!

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    1. Lucy,
      My heart goes out to you and I must say your vulnerability in reply to my post shows what a beautiful woman you are. With all you have had to deal with, your body is holding so much frustration & negative energy. Which, I can understand because holding everything in was my way, until it got to much. I believe it’s those things that have been part of my cause of now living with a debilitating central nervous system disorder. I think spiralling out of control earlier this year with depression and my complex health issues that I came to realisation that crying everything out was my way to release what I didn’t need so that I could receive what I do require. I’m not saying, everyday is shiny and smelling like roses but I have found my inner strength that allows me to walk forward to the life that I love. I know that because of my health issues, I am not as I once was but realising strength where I thought was just weakness allows me to strive forward for me, you and all others that wander with chronic pain and illness.
      With that beautiful baby , not long from joining you in this world I hope you can find a way to release what’s not required by you ready for you to receive so much goodness.
      Please keep in touch, through here or my other social media channels or even through my email at

      Much love

      Lisa-Raie – The Barefoot Goddess 💋


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